Growing up in an Indian household is quite an interesting experience (not really). You get barred from doing so many things in your life, while at times; they could be good for you, most of the times they are not.
So, what do you do then, tell your parents that they are wrong? Surely, if you do not wish to live anymore. While the age-old ideologies of our parents are gradually changing, here are some basic rules that some Indian parents still abide by.
This one might seem reasonable to some who consider girls to be naïve, someone who are to be protected. (Seriously though?). Forget about potential harassers, forget about stalkers or for that matter, any possible danger you could come across because who has the time to think about all THAT, when your are utterly stressed about a much bigger fear….. the fear of your parents’ anger.
So much so, that your mind decides to not acknowledge any other fear or danger. Now, that is the power of Indian parents y’all. Basically, for any typical Indian girl outing at nights is like a pack of lays that has more chips in it than air…. IMPOSSIBLE!
Ohh how the cops wish they were given as much respect as the cow or any elder gets in India!
It’s a very weird logic I tell you. They could be bashing you, insulting you, comparing you with every possible human being on this planet after knowing you for not more than 5 minutes and you are expected or rather forced to reply with a smile of gratitude because why not? Who doesn’t like to be insulted for mere existing?
*smiling through the tears*
Forget about saying anything even a slight change in your expression, and here comes your mom’s death stare. So, you just stand their drenched in the out-pours of insults and when you hope your parents will now back you up, you see them nodding their heads to all of the remarks thrown at you.
Here’s the case in Indian household, we are not allowed to know, talk or read about sex. We just assume it doesn’t exist and nobody has ever done it, not even our parents. Because, according to Indian parents we do not need that in our life, but only until marriage because after that, you constantly get pressurized to have sex in order to have children, in front of the ENTIRE family.
Hypocrisy? No way. Tradition!
The funny thing is, this taboo is not at all limited to just sex but every word that has “sex” in it. For instance, sexing, sexism, sexuality etc., For Indian parents they all have something to do with sex and therefore, you are not allowed to use them within at least 200 meters of your house, only if you do not wish to be disowned by them.
If you are from an Indian family, there is absolutely no way you did not experience this at least once in your lifetime. You could be scoring straight A’s in your academics, and still you would get compared to your neighbour’s distant cousin’s brother’s nephew’s sister’s kid. And if you are one of those lucky kid you would also get compared to your pet. Yes, you read that right.
Well at least, someone in the family is not disappointing them.
Cheerios to that!
Comparing you to those cousins you never even knew you have, and most of the times these comparisons are not even direct. You will have to figure it out by yourself that you are being compared to, when your mom is constantly praising your friend or someone you never have heard of before.
As soon as you complete your studies, you’d get nagged beyond tolerance about getting hitched. Every party, every get together, meetings anything that involves you going out of your house is seen by your parents as an excellent opportunity to find a suitable groom/ bride for you.
And if you spare them all this efforts by finding that special someone by yourself. You. are. Done.
“Marrying someone for love? you kidding me? marriages are done to have kids” – that’s the Indian logic. I never understood why Indian parents get so offended when their kid decides to find a partner for themselves. Nevertheless, i think it’s safe to say that the only surprise Indian parents give is a surprise marriage!